A quick and not very thoughtful posting.
Today, like we're doing every so often, a bunch of us had a bunch of beers together with a bunch of munchies (while a bunch of guys played golf on the teevee surrounded by a bunch of cacti). Liam used to love these get-togethers. She loved a bunch of [old and balding] men drinking beer with her dad; she loved the food, especially the spinach & artichoke dip; she loved the company; she loved the attention; she loved the golf on the teevee. I don't think about Liam every minute of my life, but it was difficult not to think about her today. But with all due respect, Liama, move aside please. It is not your day today.
Tonight, a day in advance, Meitav celebrated her 15th birthday. Only a year and a half ago Meitav's life were pretty fragile. As if having a sister that was suffering for months and eventually dying is not enough, she didn't have her mom at home; life at her previous school was not easy; plus all her dedication to dance. For us, adults, who have some life experience, all this might be easier to cope with. But for a 13 years old, it's 1000 fold more difficult.
Yet, here we are only a year and a half later, and Meitav is surrounded by her [new] school friends and there's nothing on her face but joy and happiness. It's not only because the 10 teenagers who are messing the house (even as we speak) are having fun together. It's mostly because all of the many things which just come (came?) together for her now. This evening symbolizes this amazing change for the better.
I'm happy that Liam "visited" me today. But I'm even happier that Meitav enjoys the moment regardless of Liam. There would be many more chances to remember Liam - whether we want it or not. Tonight is not one of them. Today is Meitav - all the way. I'm so happy that Meitav can enjoy the present. In other words, to lose a sister (or a daughter) is not the end of the world. Life goes on. One can remember (and cry) at the appropriate times (or when it catches you unprepared). But it's also ok to let go and forget, yes, forget I said, if/when happiness and joy are calling. It's that simple. I'm glad Meitav knows how to implement this. There's no reason to be wrapped in self pity your entire life.
Today, like we're doing every so often, a bunch of us had a bunch of beers together with a bunch of munchies (while a bunch of guys played golf on the teevee surrounded by a bunch of cacti). Liam used to love these get-togethers. She loved a bunch of [old and balding] men drinking beer with her dad; she loved the food, especially the spinach & artichoke dip; she loved the company; she loved the attention; she loved the golf on the teevee. I don't think about Liam every minute of my life, but it was difficult not to think about her today. But with all due respect, Liama, move aside please. It is not your day today.
Tonight, a day in advance, Meitav celebrated her 15th birthday. Only a year and a half ago Meitav's life were pretty fragile. As if having a sister that was suffering for months and eventually dying is not enough, she didn't have her mom at home; life at her previous school was not easy; plus all her dedication to dance. For us, adults, who have some life experience, all this might be easier to cope with. But for a 13 years old, it's 1000 fold more difficult.
Yet, here we are only a year and a half later, and Meitav is surrounded by her [new] school friends and there's nothing on her face but joy and happiness. It's not only because the 10 teenagers who are messing the house (even as we speak) are having fun together. It's mostly because all of the many things which just come (came?) together for her now. This evening symbolizes this amazing change for the better.
I'm happy that Liam "visited" me today. But I'm even happier that Meitav enjoys the moment regardless of Liam. There would be many more chances to remember Liam - whether we want it or not. Tonight is not one of them. Today is Meitav - all the way. I'm so happy that Meitav can enjoy the present. In other words, to lose a sister (or a daughter) is not the end of the world. Life goes on. One can remember (and cry) at the appropriate times (or when it catches you unprepared). But it's also ok to let go and forget, yes, forget I said, if/when happiness and joy are calling. It's that simple. I'm glad Meitav knows how to implement this. There's no reason to be wrapped in self pity your entire life.
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